How to get sex as much as YOU want to

Ever wonder how to get it and why you ain't? This is going to talk about that.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• Your "self"
• Patience
• A sense of humor and resilience
• Time for yourself and your needs
• A place or way to meet others
• Passion for life and others
• An ease in dealing with people
• A trust in yourself and others
• Responsibility to do the right things the right way
• A place to do it
• Privacy

1. Your "self" is about the most important thing that has to be there, it must be your first priority. By be there I mean one must be present emotionally, physically, and spiritually in what they are doing. Not off worrying about what happened yesterday, this morning, will happen this night, tomorrow, or the next day. Being fully present in the now is the most important thing to be aware of when you want good and satisfying sex and want to get it as much as YOU want to. Because you will know it is what you want and a willing partner will know that is what you want too, because you will tell them in different ways. The goal for you will be sex and satisfaction. You will know that you want it and show it and those that you choose to know that you want it will know that you want it and will not be turned off thinking that you don't want it or that you weren't satisfied. Guilt, doubt, shame, or other negative emotions or experiences are about one of the biggest turn offs anyone has. In appropriate and willing mutually agreeable consented to adult relationships it has no real purpose. Yet, one can have all kinds of hang ups from their past and what they have been taught about sex or what might have been done to them. It is good if you have a good and trusted friend that you can talk with about these kinds of things if you do have some issues in this area. One does not necessarily have to go to a doctor to talk about this kind of thing just a really good friend that you trust and that you believe will keep your confidences, remember there are people that you deal with that you think will keep your confidences that might run right out and tell everything that you have said to them. A counselor at a clinic will write it down in black and white most of the time in a chart of some kind.
2. Patience is important, because getting the time free and the set up right can take some pre-planning. To work out what you are going to do about getting the time to yourself and keeping the passion going can take some thinking and visualizing and strategizing. Of course if you don't mind it sex can be had just about anyplace anytime that you want it and sometimes that can be fun if you keep in mind issues of safety and privacy when doing so. If you get things right though you will enjoy it hopefully. Generally you have a partner that is with you one way or another or you want them to be, and you can't get upset if they can't put down everything they are doing at the drop of the hat to give you what you want. Getting upset will turn you off and then you won't want it, and it will turn your partner off too. What you can do is masturbate to satisfy yourself temporarily and then when you can do it with your partner do it. That takes patience with yourself because you want your partner, but you know that you don't want to wait, but you may have to.
3. A sense of humor and resilience so that you can make it through the times that you are figuring out how you can do what you want to do. Also just in case it ends up at some point in time that it doesn't happen quite the way you expect it too or you have to put it off. So you crack a couple of jokes to yourself and you go ahead and masturbate alone or with your partner and you keep the resilience to try again later.
4. Making time for yourself and YOUR needs is very important, because it is a human need that is real and present and not dangerous except when you try to deny it. That is when you might find it creeping into your thoughts at times that you least expect it or ways that are the least healthiest for you. If this urge is satisfied by you at your direction you are the one controlling it, it is not controlling you kind of like eating 3 meals a day as often as you can. That way when you are at the goodie line in the grocery store you aren't picking up every candy bar and eating it straight away because you are hungry. Making time for self is one thing we have to do, because self gives us all of its time. So self is important enough to take the time for. Sex is good for self if it is satisfying and helps us to do better in the rest of our life areas and it does if it is well taken care of and understood. Many a dollar has been made using some form of sexuality or symbol in advertising.
5. You will need a place or way to meet others, so that you don't find the first candy bar on the rack so to speak and eat it if it taste good to you or not. There are lots of places that you can find others hanging out that are having the same urges that you are, this internet is a good example of that. Join a group or two and try to make some new friends that way. Go out with your friends and try to meet their friends and soon you will know some people that might be happy to oblige you and that you will not mind doing it with. Discretion is a good word up to a point, but if you are too discreet then you will be alone all the time and you will not find anyone that wants to do it with you. Of course I am talking about adults not children, children should be left out of this kind of a thing. In fact you should make sure that it is another adult to the best of your ability and never talk to a child about this kind of thing in any kind of a sexual way at all. That is wrong any way you look at it and there are laws against it for a reason it hurts children for the rest of their lives.
6. You should have passion for life and other people so that they know that you care about yourself and them too and what interest you share with them. This passion is good for all kinds of things, it helps you get done what you need to in all areas of your life and gives you the strength to forge ahead and find and get what you want in life. You should learn to master it.
7. You will need an ease in dealing with people no matter what. Yet, unless you are married, and many of us are not, we may be alone. Trust is often hard to build, we are being taught not to trust, it started the first time we were told do not trust a stranger, and for a child that is good advice. However, if you are an adult then you have to trust many other strangers in your life on usually a daily basis for many different reasons. So it is good to learn how to trust and why to trust and when to trust and what you don't trust and why? It is good to be able to move in and out of different peoples lives and deal with lots of different people on different levels so that when you want sex you can get it and so that you will know who you want sex from and who you don't. No one has a right to force it on another, talking about it and doing it are two different things. One can walk away from this, but moving further then talking is a step that one has to take and then one has to learn if they can trust another person enough to do that or not? We may trust people only to find out that we really shouldn't have, it is a learning experience so start slowly, but do not tease people. You need enough trust to find out the real essentials like if there is any AIDS that may be involved or what that other person really wants from you or what that other persons situation really might be. Always have a mutually agreed idea that it can stop whenever either of you say it does or wants it to. That neither of you all will be upset with the other and that you will not go to all cost to get what you want because there is always someone out there that wants what you do, the secret is finding them and knowing when to trust it.
8. You must have a trust in yourself and others so that you are willing to share with them and believe that is what they are bringing to you as well. To know when something isn't right for your or right at all. To know when someone is putting you in a position that you don't really want to be in. This is what will keep you out of bad situations the most of the time. This is what will ask for the mutual respect and intimacy that you want in any relationship and tell you how far you can go with that other person that you are dealing with. When to back off or say this is not right and I am not going any further, or No and I mean it and mean it. This way you will know what part you had in anything that happened, what you wanted, and what you did, or your part in it you will be clear and you will not lead another on and then not understand when they want to go further then you do. If you have done your homework on getting sex when YOU want it this other person will have some understanding of when you say no, that is what you mean and you said it for a right reason, and not be offended at you for it. It can help you to maintain a friendship.
9. You must have a real feeling of responsibility to do the right things the right way at most times. This way you are neither hurting anyone nor getting yourself hurt. You are clear in what comes first and who you owe what and why. You will not just be using another human being and then throwing them away. You will not be letting the sex that you want get in the way of your real obligations to the world that you have made for yourself. You will be being honest and on the up and up about what your need is and what you expect to happen or not happen.
10. If you get all of the above in place then you will need a place to do it, that will come easy enough once the rest of these ducks are in a row. It doesn't have to be a fancy place, it doesn't have to be any special place, it can be if you want it to be and it can have the things there that you want to be there. You can suit it for your needs or for your partners needs, or you can just let it happen spontaneously at anyplace that is safe and discreet enough to let it happen at.
11. Privacy is how you control getting all the sex YOU really want and no more or no less. If you break anothers confidence it will be hard to be trusted again. One you can not be or are not trusted anymore you usually won't get the sex you want. So keep it to yourself, unless you are sure that you don't want sex anymore and that is a way to keep from getting it that is for sure. If you break the privacy of another so that others know it then you may find that you are having it offerred to you more then you are wanting it and that is your own fault so don't get offended. Of course you still have the right to say no, we all do. Although you may lose any chance of getting any more sex at that point, because others won't trust you or your intentions. Be honest, but keep the privacy as well, that is important. Don't go running all over spreading around names, it is not fair to those that have trusted you in a mutual agreement. Don't learn this the hard way.

Tips & Warnings

• Be your self and make you happy! Be a right kind of person in life and make you and others happy! Do the right things for the right reasons and things will generally turn out the right way. Take care of yourself!
• Sex is precious, it can be just as dangerous not to understand it as it can to have it, be careful out there, protect yourself the best you can and protect other people. Masturbation is far better then spreading AIDS around, but it can be a mutual masturbation and then be much the same as having real sex. Not everyone is a pervert, but everyone just about is a sexual being and that needs to be honored and sacred in some ways. It doesn't have to be marriage nescessarily if all it is going to do is end up in you being in an even worse situation. Don't rape and don't hurt our kids, there are too many available and decent adults in the world that would really just say yes to you if they had the chance they don't have to be perfect it just has to be mutually agreeable and between adults.